Save
Your Relationship By Examining What
Happened
Learn The Exact Steps To Winning Back Your
Ex
OK, so the
breakup has officially happened and you are on your “break”.
Hopefully you are doing something to take your mind off
of the breakup. Something like getting a new hobbie,
taking a vacation, speding time with friends, etc..
Hopefully this is working and
your emotions are now getting more under control, and you are
able to think about your ex, in a calmer, more even-keel frame
of mind.
If that’s the case, then its
time for you to do a little homework. You are going to dig deep
within yourself and find out where YOU went wrong in the
relationship. Dissect the relationship from top to
bottom.
I know its not an easy thing
to be objective on this issue, but try to be honest with
yourself. Treat this as if it was an assignment for work or
school. Try to leave all the emotion out of it, and focus
strictly on the facts.
Think of all the great things
that happened in your relationship. Most couples have a
phenomenal beginning, otherwise known as the honeymoon
stage.
What was that like? How happy
were you then? What were the reasons you were so happy? What
was it that first attracted to you about your ex? Think of all
the great things that made your relationship feel (at the time)
that it would last forever.
Now, on the flip side. Where
did it go wrong? This is obviously not as much fun, but you
still have to be mature about this. Don’t say one of the things
that went wrong was that “he was a jerk” or “she was a slut”.
That’s not going to solve anything. Try to dig a little deeper
and see what you find.
It could be something like
having different ideas of what your future would be, loss of
physical attraction, somebody wanted children and the other
didn’t. Obviously, its going to be different for each person,
but try to be specific. You may only find a couple of things
that went wrong, or a whole laundry list of things that went
wrong. When you get them all out, you’ll look at your
relationship as more of a project that needs some retooling,
and you’ll know what kind of work has to be done.
Learn The Exact Steps To Winning Back Your
Ex
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