Why Exactly Do You Want To Get Back Together With Your Ex?

After you have examined the relationship during the “break” part of your breakup and have identified what were some of the problems with the relationship that caused the break up, and all the positives and the negatives, you should be able to identify whether you actually want to get back together with your ex or not.

Again, you should have tried to take away all your emotion out of this process (its difficult, I know.) The reason I say this, is because you should have a completely different outlook on the relationship, after you’ve had time to heal. The moment after a break up is when the emotions are going a mile a minute and you say things like “I’ll die if I can’t be with him” or “she was the greatest thing that has, and will ever happen to me”.

Obviously this was the irrational part of you speaking. I’m not saying your feelings of love weren’t true, but statements like that are completely overblown.

But now, you’ve had time to take a step back, and be in a different place where you can get a get a hold of your emotions and look at this from a better perspective.

So after dissecting your relationship where does it stand? Was it actually the right reason to breakup?

If you said no, then it should be for reasons like:

The majority of the time we spend together, we were happy.

We both have the same kind of outlook on life.

We could talk about anything for hours at a time.

We felt comfortable around each other.

There was always intimacy between us.

If this is the kind of stuff that you come up with, then it sounds like this is relationship that is worth getting back together for. You obviously had a deep connection with this person, and all these positives should outweigh hopefully the minor negatives in the relationship.

It’s important to get this right. There is no sense of winning your ex back, if its just going to lead to misery. Fear of being alone, and not finding somebody else should not be the reason for getting back together with somebody. 

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